When its HARD to give Thanks

It so unfair!!  

My beloved  went to South Africa to do a Landscaping job. He worked hard, got to bed late every night – but loved it. It had turned out brilliantly, and he was so proud of the way it all looked. Just a last few small details to tidy up.  His co-worker said she would tidy up. The employed gardener could continue the watering.   He left South Africa very content and satisfied.

But the client’s response on his return from another country was terse -and very dissatisfied! The co-worker had not tidied up. The gardener had not watered – and the expensive plants looked dead.  The client blamed him.

Relationships soured.  Promises of more work were doubtful. Future possibilities of on-going expansion were stalled.

“But that’s not MY Fault!”   Unfair!   Unjust!

How do you “Give Thanks”  when it’s hard, unfair? 

But this could be considered ” a light and momentary struggle”.   What about those REALLY HARD things: 

…. a loved one dying of cancer
…  losing the job desperately needed to keep the family fed and clothed
…  ongoing pain, or sickness
…  desperate financial times
…  and others

Are we seriously asked, even expected, (or commanded?) to give THANKS in these circumstances?  

1 Thessalonians 5:18:  Give THANKS in ALL circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.

Colossians 3:17  And whatever you do, whether in word or deed, do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ,  giving THANKS to the God the Father through Him. 

Colossians 4:2  Devote yourselves to prayer, being watchful and THANKFUL

There are over 353 verses commanding us to give thanks – one for every day of the year.  Not just the GOOD days!   EVERY day!

But HOW can I give thanks in these hard to accept trials and challenges, when things are NOT going my way?


Well –  Its not WHAT I want, or HOW  I  want it, WHEN I want it, WHERE I want it.  It’s not MY WILL.  “I’m saying NO!” to all this suffering, pain, loss, injustice!    No to a world that’s NOT PREFECT!!

But really – am I not saying “No” to God?   Am I really saying,  “ I want MY will, not HIS will?  My way – not His way? “

But our Beloved  Lord Jesus –  He gave us this example…

 … “ on the night He was betrayed, He took bread, 24 and when he had GIVEN THANKS, he broke it and said,  “This is my body, which is for you … “ 1 Corinthians 11:23-29

He gave Thanks for the Bread, which symbolised His body, about to be cruelly broken and abused. He gave Thanks, and in so doing, YIELDED Himself, and accepted the Father’s Will – even later praying:

 “Father, if you are willing, take this cup from me;
yet NOT MY will, but YOURS be done.”  Luke 22:42

He knew that Gods will was the BEST way, in-spite of the cost, the pain, the suffering
That’s the first step  
Are we willing to lay down our will, what we want,  no, what we demand?   To TRUST His will for us?
Do we have a choice?  YES!
a) To Trust and yield,  and give thanks,  and find peace and joy – a peace that passes understanding
b) To continue to wrestle  and struggle for my will, my way,  and be angry, dissatisfied & discontent in our life,  screaming Its unfair!
The choice is ours.  I know what I have chosen.

What’s Your Choice? 

Next week – It’s one thing to come to a place of peace and  yieldedness – but to actually GIVE THANKS  for it, in it?

What Did Jesus understand that we haven’t yet? 

Blessings and Yieldedness


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